Mid-Week Reset: When You’re Misunderstood While Walking in Purpose

Someone you love says one sentence and it lands like a verdict: “I felt like you were very focused on yourself.” That kind of comment doesn’t just sting, it can wake up every old fear about taking up space, being seen, or shining too bright. I’m sharing a recent moment where a friendship shifted after a collaboration and how it tested my confidence, my calling, and my emotional reflex to shrink.

We walk through a faith-based way to separate triggers from truth, because just because something feels familiar doesn’t mean it’s true. I talk about going back to God for a sound mind, inviting Him to search my heart, and refusing to pick up burdens that were never mine to carry. We also unpack what real confirmation looks like: alignment with Scripture, peace instead of confusion, and wise counsel from people who are rooted and discerning.

If you’re navigating an identity shift, outgrowing a room, or feeling misunderstood by friends, family, or coworkers, this is your midweek reset. We’ll name the difference between self-focus and stewarding your assignment, why not everyone has the capacity to walk with you in every season, and how to keep moving forward without explaining your growth to everyone. When your story points back to God, you don’t have to dim it to make other people comfortable.

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When Purpose Gets Misread

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Amiga, have you ever been misunderstood by someone you generally loved? And instead of a conversation, you got a closing statement. And then suddenly you're not just processing what they said, you're questioning yourself. Am I too much? Did I make it all about me? Am I doing this wrong? Amiga, today we're talking about what to do when walking in your purpose still gets misinterpreted. Okay, Amiga, let's talk. There comes a moment when growth calls you higher and you're trying to figure it out all by yourself. You're evolving, you're flexing, you're rebuilding, and maybe you're wondering girls, like your fear. Welcome to 3. If you're ready for your next level, then I'm your girl. I'm Diana, Dr. Mommy on a mission and creator of the Empower Her program. And I'm ready to meet you right where you are. So for your Dr. Tito, sit with me for a while. This is your Dapisito hour. Hey, welcome back to Extreme Rebrand, a mommy on a mission podcast. Your space for realignment, reflection, and walking boldly in who God created you to be. Grab your cafecito, grab your notebook, pen, paper, whatever it is you need, and your cafecito or your lunch, whatever it is. Let's settle in and let's get started with your midweek reset. All right. So today's topic is going to be a little bit personal and it's uh something that happened to me not too long ago. I recently experienced the ending of a friendship that meant a lot to me. This was someone who poured into me, someone who supported me, and someone who I really looked up to as a mentor, especially in the business, right? But after a recent event we collaborated on, something shifted. The communication started to change. There was some distance there. And how I could determine that distance is because the text messages started getting shorter and shorter and shorter. And eventually I received a message. And in that message, one line stood out to me. I felt like you were very focused on yourself. I'm gonna be honest with y'all. That one hit me. Like it really had me questioning. It triggered something deep inside of me because that wasn't the first time I had heard something like that. Growing up, success didn't feel safe. There was comparison, there were comments, and there was this unspoken message. Don't shine too much or it will cost you. So when I read that message, it wasn't just about the event. It felt like, am I doing too much? Am I making this about me? Do I need to shrink again? But here's what I had to do. I had to separate what was true from what was triggered. Because just because something feels familiar doesn't mean it's true. 2 Timothy 1.7 says, For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind. Amiga, a sound mind means I don't have to accept every thought or every feeling as true. And neither do you. And just because someone says something about you doesn't automatically make it true. Sometimes what people say is coming from a place that they are struggling with, from their pain, from their capacity, from what they're carrying in their own season. And if you're not careful, you'll take on something that was never yours to carry. And that's why you can't just stop at what you feel. You have to take it back to God because emotions can be loud, but God, He's accurate. So I went back to God and asked, search my heart. Is this me? Am I making things about me and not about you? And so it reminded me of the scripture of Psalm 139, verses 23 and 24. It says, Search me, oh God, and know my heart. See if there's any offensive way in me. And girl, it's okay to ask God to check you, right? Because here's what I want to say. When you have people who you can trust, when you have people that you've known and that they know you, and that they can in a way, they'll check you with love. They don't check you with judgment because if they know who you are and you start doing things that are out of character, they're gonna let you know. Right? They're not gonna just not say anything, but it's also important to let God confirm you too, because confirmation matters. Not every voice gets to validate who you are, and someone's opinion, that's not a reliable source of truth. True confirmation comes from God, and you might be asking, okay, but how do I know God is confirming me? Well, let me give you a few ways. One of those is through his word. When what you're doing aligns with scripture and not emotion, not opinion, but truth, there's gonna be peace in your spirit, right? First Corinthians 14 33 says, For God is not a God of confusion, but of peace. So there's not going to be any pressure, there's not going to be any confusion, there's going to be a settled knowing through consistency in what he's already shown you. God doesn't contradict himself. If he gave you an assignment, he's not going to take it back because someone misunderstood you. And through wise aligned counsel, so that means that not just anyone's opinion, but people who are rooted, discerning, and led by God. And Amiga, when you're confirmed by God, you don't have to chase validation from people. You can reflect, you can grow, but you don't have to question your identity every time someone speaks. Because there's a difference between self-focus and stewarding your assignment. Matthew 5.16 says that one of the scriptures that I like to say is Matthew 5.16. And that one I'm going to look for you because I don't have that one memorized. But Matthew 5.16 says, let me open it up to you because you know how we do. We have to, you know, everything's got to be aligned by God's word, right? So we're going to read Matthew 5.16. All right. And it says, in the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly father. So let me just say this this way. And I and this is something that I usually always say that my story is not just my story, it's his story. Because everything that I've walked through, everything that I've overcome, everything that I now get to share, it's not about me. It's about what God did. And when I talk about my journey, when I talk about my growth, when I talk about my book, my business, the doors that have opened, I'm not saying, hey, look at me. I'm saying, look at what God can do. Because there was this, there were things in my life that I thought were impossible. And they didn't become possible because of my strength. They became possible because of God's power. Y'all, today I'm going to be throwing these scriptures out because, you know, I really had to sit down and think about what was happening, right? And so 2 Corinthians 10, 17 stood out. It says, let the one who boasts boast in the Lord. So no, I'm not boasting about me. I'm boasting about God. And when there was a mutual understanding of what was going to take place, it was never about the business. It was, you know, it was never about me. It was about what God created that I was introducing. Okay. And so when we understand that, amiga, you stop shrinking your story to make other people comfortable. Because your story was never meant to elevate you, it was meant to point back to him. And if I'm really going to be honest, and this part baffled me, because this is someone, again, someone that I looked to as a mentor, someone I looked up for, someone that I looked up to for her confidence in the things that she was doing, someone who taught me about collaboration and not competition. So to have my growth be seen as self-absorption, yeah, that hurt. That was hard. But this is what I had to understand. Not everyone will understand your growth. And that doesn't always mean you did something wrong. And so scripture to reference that is Galatians 1:10. Y'all, I'm I'm telling y'all, God was really speaking to me because I had a completely different message that I was going to talk about. But, you know, I really, really felt like God was really talking to me about this because it got to the point where I even scheduled, and I'm going to be honest, you know, I don't, I'm not embarrassed or afraid or anything like that, because I mean these are lessons that we all learn, right? And so I did. I scheduled an appointment with the therapist because I was like, you know, okay, so I just want to make sure that it's not me, the or that it's a limiting belief that just popped up, right? Because that'll happen. It says, obviously, I'm not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ's servant. So that right there, I know that God is using me. God is taking not only me, but He's taking you to another level. And not everyone is prepared or ready to go where God is taking you. Sometimes people you love are in a completely different season, and that's okay. They're learning different lessons, they're carrying different things, they have a different capacity in that moment. And if you're not careful, you'll start questioning your assignment because someone else couldn't come with you. I mean, I need you to hear me with love. Just because someone can't walk with you in this season doesn't mean you're walking in the wrong direction. And that's why you have to come back to this question: whose voice matters more? Because once again, if we're not careful, you'll start adjusting your life based on who's comfortable with your growth. And I'm going to say this too. It's not just in friendships, it's with family, it's with coworkers, it's with anybody, right? It's it's with people who are in the same industry as you. You know, you start off, you know, on the right path, or on the same path, rather, but one is going to be elevated a lot sooner than the other. That doesn't mean one is better than the other, nor does that mean that one is favored more than the other. What that means is that God already, God, you are where you are positioned. You are positioned and prepared to go where God needs you to go, whereas the other person needs a little bit more time. Not that to say that she or he is not going to get elevated. It just means that God is still positioning them because they are in a transition season. And like I said, this isn't just about me and what happened. This might be you too. You might be outgrowing a space, you might be being misunderstood or questioning yourself because of what someone said. So let's pause right here for a moment. And I really want you to sit with this. Okay, so this is gonna be a coaching moment, real quick. Have you ever mistaken a trigger for truth? Are you shrinking in areas where God is calling you to shine? Or whose voice are you giving more weight? Someone's opinion or God's assignment. Those are some good questions to think about. Those were some of the questions that I had to think about too. And those were some of the questions that I sat with my therapist and talked about as well. And if you needed clarity today, here it is. Okay, this is for you. Just because it feels familiar doesn't mean it's true. You are allowed to grow without explaining yourself to anybody and take the lesson, not the label, right? Proverbs 27:17 says, I don't know why I keep putting my Bible down, uh, because I'm just gonna keep opening it up because y'all, like I said, God, I tell y'all, God was really talking to me. I really needed to hear from him this weekend because I'm a person that processes information. So I'll sit with something for a little while. And I don't want to say that I get over things, but what I do say is that I do end up getting some clarity after a little bit, after I've kind of like processed everything. But anyway, so Proverbs 27, 27, 17 says, as iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. And basically what that means is that it's not about competition, it's about collaborating, it's about being there for someone, it's about, you know, helping them get to the next level without judgment, without anger, without any type of strife or anything like that, right? It's about really being with someone and being open. See, even in the Bible, it talks about how you have to address your situation first with the person that you're having an issue with, right? Because how do you know that there's a problem? Number one, if you don't ask, if you notice that there's a difference in a person, especially someone that you've spoken to, you've you know hung out with, you've done things with, and you've you know their personality, you know how they are, and and then when something is off, and then you have that spirit of discernment telling you that something is off, the the best thing to do is to ask. Because if not, you'll start creating assumptions in your head and having scenarios or talking out a script or or whatever without even having that person, and you're making up a story in your mind based on the reaction, and so I got my feedback. I realized that okay, we're on two different, you know, we're on two different paths right now, and that's okay because I still love her, I still look up to the things that she continues to do. You know, she's a very transparent person, very honest person, and and you know, I admire the things that she has done, right? And so I don't have anything a strife or ill will towards her or anything like that. I I continue to pray for her, and and I just pray that in this season that whatever it is that is going on that you know will be able to speak again. And I've chosen to step away, right? I'm respecting her space. So, again, not everyone has the capacity to walk with you in every season, and and you don't abandon your assignment because of discomfort. If God is calling you to do something, then you you do it, and he and here's where I landed. There, this is not something I created, this is something I was assigned to carry. So, no, because for a minute I felt like quitting, but no, I'm not gonna quit, I'm not gonna shrink. But what I am gonna do is I'm gonna refine my messaging. I'm gonna continue to learn and to grow, and I'm gonna continue to stay aligned. And amiga, if you're going through the same thing, then what I ask is that you too become more refined, continue to grow and stay aligned with God's word. Let me pray. Father God, remind her who she is, give her discernment to grow, but confidence to not shrink. In Jesus' name. Amen. I mean, if you would like to discover a little bit more about identity shifts or discovering this new season in your life, maybe you're going through a transition in your life and you just can't quite put your finger on it, then I encourage you to go to and take the personal rebrand quiz. You can find it at mommyonamission.com. And please share this episode with another amiga who perhaps needs this reminder. And I don't really, really, really love it if you would go and leave a review, a comment on the podcast, and and subscribe because the more people listen to it, you know, the better the messaging goes out. And so, Amiga, I just want to close with this. You're not, you're becoming the woman God always sees. Okay, you are becoming the woman God already sees. So I'll meet you right here next Wednesday for your midweek reset. Hey, if this midweek reset spoke to you, share it with another Amiga who needs a reminder. And if you're ready to take the next step in your personal rebrand, explore the Empower Her options and take the personal rebrand quiz. You'll find everything linked in the show notes. This isn't about fixing you, it's about aligning you. Amiga, you're not behind. You're not late, you're becoming the woman God already sees. I'll meet you right here next Wednesday for your midweek preset.